The Wolf Speaks – Deep Diving with The Little Mermaid


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One of the things I love, is stories (and books of course, I seem to collect them to read later!)

Stories are powerful tools, where we can learn life lessons, morals, and values.

Every great story since the beginning of time includes archetypes and we can identify with these archetypes on a collective level.  It’s through the archetypes in stories that we can begin to sculpt an understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

I recently bought Beneath the Moon: Fairy Tales, Myths, and Divine Stories from Around the world, which has been written and beautifully illustrated by Yoshi Yoshitani. 

Out of the stories I have read so far, the Little Mermaid, a Danish Fairy Tale originally written by Hans Christian Anderson and published in 1837, caught my attention.

We all know the Disney version of this story; Ariel is a mermaid who dreams of living on land.  She rescues a prince from drowning and falls madly in love with him.  She takes a gamble, and strikes a bargain, with Ursula, the evil sea witch.  Fully aware of the risks, she trades in her beautiful voice for legs, so she can be part of the human world and win the love of the prince she rescued.  In the Disney story, love wins the day and they both live happily ever after.

The original story has no happy ending, and your heart breaks for the mermaid who agreed to pay the price the wicked witch of the sea demands, for love, unrequited.

The Little Mermaid is unable to win the love of the prince, watches him marry another and the Little Mermaid dies and is turned to sea foam.  Apparently, Hans Christian Anderson revised the ending to a more hopeful conclusion, where the Little Mermaid becomes a daughter of air and earns a soul, something she wanted all along.

I was a little sad at the ending and I began to think about what the moral of the story was, what are the lessons and what was the story reflecting back at me.

The timing of reading this story, was rather curious.  The book arrived on International Women’s Day, which was the day after our first Goddess Archetype Workshop and before our deep dive into the maiden archetype.

I felt like there was not only some personal introspection required, but a collective message here to investigate.

Disney Movies (of the past) have adjusted the true value of stories, by appealing to our sense of romance, adventure, and the fight against good and evil.  In the retelling of these stories, the truth and depth has been compromised.  The morals, values and lessons have been re-written to disempower the feminine (and the masculine).  The Little Mermaid was determined to ‘change’ herself and give up everything for the love of a man she hardly knew, even knowing the risks.

This retelling has entrapped women into believing that we need a hero to save us and to be dependent on the love of another.  On the flipside the powerless female character is what the masculine is taught to desire.

The true meaning of the Little Mermaid has been covered up and denies us the moral of the story and encourages women to change ourselves to suit the mainstream narrative and to give in and lose our voice.  In the movie, girls are encouraged to change themselves, even ‘silence’ themselves in the name of love.

Women are not damsels in distress. We are not powerless, and we do not need saving.  We can save ourselves, by appreciating and loving ourselves first. 

Women have given up a lot of their innate magic to suit the patriarchal narrative.  To fit a script that tells us we are not good enough, that we need to look a certain way and more specifically we need to take on attributes of the masculine to make it in this world.  

Women have had their voices silenced , their unique feminine magic overidden and changed themselves to fit into the patriachal paradigm.

We step into our wholeness by following our hearts and what we truly want and rejecting the perverted version of what society has told us we want…

We often allow ourselves to get into situations where we lose our voices and our authenticity.

For me the moral of the story is when we give up so much of ourselves, in order to fit in, we curtail our freedom and give up our authenticity and override our innate feminine magic.

We need to think hard about how much of our personal and collective value we have given away, including our voices to fit in?

Where have we give up our magical depths and our feminine ebb and flow… for something that has taken our true magic from us?

I went on to read many different opinions and theories on the original story, some offered hope from a more spiritual perspective, others felt it articulated the harsh consequences stemming from impulsive actions of the mermaid.  Some even argued that in the end, her good deeds gave her what she wanted, eternal life.

Another thought was that the more bittersweet the ending, the more realistic it is.  We cannot make people love us and we need to learn to live with that fact.  The best we can do is act gracefully towards them.

My belief is, that stories reflect back to us what we need to know or consider, and my interpretation will be different to anyone else’s, based on my own personal narrative.

In the Tarot of the Divine by Yoshi Yoshitani, the little Mermaid represents the Fool, who is carefree and excited about life regardless of the warnings.  You see the mermaid depicted in the card, sitting on a rock looking up a castle on a high mountain top - a castle in the sky. 

For me the moral of the story is a warning.  A warning to not to give up parts of ourselves for the sake of another (or the mainstream patriarchal narrative).  To slow down and think before we rush in and to not create dreams, hopes, or plans that are impossible or unrealistic. 

The Little Mermaid represents the Maiden Archetype.  This Archetype displays a youthful effervescence and determination.  She has a sense of curiosity, which she uses to explore the world around her.  She is creative and has an instinctive approach to the world; however, lacks experience.  The world is your oyster when you are a maiden.

The shadow aspect of the maiden is self-centred.  All her energy is expended on achieving her own personal needs and goals.  She struggles to realize her full potential and she tends to be fearful and co-dependent.  She does not consider the consequences and trusts it will all work out. 

If I reflect on my own personal story.  I identify with the shadow aspect of the Maiden.  Having grown up in a restrictive religion (you can read about my story here) then desperately trying to escape, I started to look for love in the wrong places, looking for a hero to save me.  I became co-dependant, lacked boundaries and sought validation in all the wrong places.  Determined to live my life on my own terms, I ignored all the warning signs, even my intuitive ones. 

Where have you given up your voice to keep the peace and fit in?  Where have you knowingly given up your deepest feminine attributes to fit into patriarchal society?

I’m sure there are many other threads to unpick in this very profound fairy tale…

What personal connection do you have to the story? What part resonates with you the most?

I’d love to hear your thoughts…


Fionn and Belinda work with the Goddess in all her forms as part of their own transformational work and feel called to offer Workshops and Cacao Ceremonies to support others with these powerful teaching tools, enabling us to create a more fulfilling and magical life.

The Goddess is rising within each of us.... may she light your path ahead.

Blessed Be.


Wise and Untamed

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March 2021 – Newsletter


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Hello Dear Ones

And just like that, as if by magic, we have entered March and the season of unfurling vibrant life!  

The shift in energy has been palpable and we can breathe a collective sigh of relief as we leave the heaviness of the last couple of months behind us.  

The February Full Moon in Virgo brought some much needed nourishing energy, which helped to clear the fog and shine its lunar light on what we needed to let go of, so we can set a course for forward momentum.  

March is a time for advancement and movement, a time when we look to the future without looking back.  It's an assertive month, with only one objective: explosive expression, there is no stopping the birth of new life from the deepest womb of mother earth.  

By following Mother Earths example, we too can embrace the assertive and lively energy that this month brings and re-ignite our hearts to move forward with our dreams at full throttle.

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Fionn sends me a reminder that it is time to put the newsletter together, deep sigh. Where am I going to find time to do this? It is 9 pm and I have just finished work. I change the bed linen – I always sleep better on clean sheets and go for a shower. This last week has been a nightmare between family problems and work, I have just wanted to run away to a sunny beach.

Then while I am in the shower the mind starts working, as it always does. I am reminded of a meditation I like doing with Lakshmi. The last time I did this I asked about lack of time and the answer was clear. There is enough time in the bank, it is what we decide to use it on that is the problem.

So for me, it is easy to make a decision to get up a little earlier, but to spend some time in the morning drinking my coffee and just waking up. I know that some may consider that a waste of time, but I like doing that, it was a conscious decision to do that. What is not conscious is when I pick up my phone and half an hour later I realise that my coffee is done and I have wasted the time looking at the news that annoys me anyway.

On Monday when I worked until 9 it was a decision I made. It is easy for me to decide to spend more time on work, but somehow I can’t do that for the other things that are important for me. Tonight I have something that I need to be online for at work, but the compromise is to spend time on workshop preparation and writing this instead of just working.

My message to you this month is to make decisions about how you spend your time. If that is to work in the evening then that is ok, but also know when to say, actually, I need some space for myself now. And then more important than anything else, accept your decision and be happy with it.


Belinda

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February was a tough month, mentally and emotionally. A lifelong theme was brought fully into my awareness just before the February Full Moon, as recent events played out. When I began to consider my own part to play in this situation, I had a serious AHA moment, old memories flooded in of times, where I have been the ‘happy helper’ (aka too accommodating) forgoing my own needs for sake of others and the resulting negative reactions when I began to unplug them from my energy source.

Whilst I have thought I was being compassionate and understanding, empathetic even, it was very clearly illuminated by the full moon, that I often put the needs of others ahead of my own. Which is one sure-fire way to make one feel drained both emotionally and physically.

Being the happy helper can mean that instead of checking in with ourselves to make sure we have the space to hear someone else’s problems, we accommodate them and let them unload. We also tend to be too understanding and allow people to overstep our personal boundaries, in various ways.

Self-care includes boundaries. And in my case, my inner voice was yelling at me that I needed to create space and re-establish boundaries and to rethink what I perceived to be morally the right thing to do…. during a pandemic; and to make matters even more complicated, there is the added layer of worrying about what others will think.

Being too accommodating is a left-over survival behaviour from childhood, that follows us into adult life. This programming means we are often too helpful, and we instinctively jump into being of service to help people feel at ease, sometimes before we are even asked to. We trick ourselves into thinking we are being nice, but in fact, what we need to recalibrate is our own sense of value and worth.  

The cleansing winds of February and my newly acquired wisdom has left me feeling refreshed and ready to march on with renewed vim and vigour.

This month’s thought to ponder… where are we not harnessing the power of our no and creating healthy boundaries that ensure we come first?

Fionn

The Owls Witchy Tip

With spring on the way do some physical and spiritual spring cleaning. Clean your sacred space, move it about to release stuck energy and then dress your altar with all things pastel and pretty.


Connect with spring by planting some flower seeds or perhaps something to eat. I have just planted sweet peas (indoors) for planting in the garden later in the year and soon I will plant my first salad leaves. These will be in pots and the cut and grow again variety.  

The Wolfs Wild Tip

Go outside and soak up as much sunlight as you can! This is much needed after the long winter nights and the currently enforced lockdown restrictions.  

Take time to look around you and notice the plants bursting into life. Stop and really take a look at a plant in bud. How amazing are they?  

It’s a time of celebration. Do something fun.

Recommendations of the Month

  • Instagram
  • Books
    • Winter Hours, by Mary Oliver (It's spring, but the book is so beautifully written)
    • The Little Prince, by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (If you need some innocent wisdom in your life.  Supposed to be a children’s book, but one that Belinda rereads all the time)
    • Odin, by Morgan Daimler
    • Goddess Wisdom, by Tanishka

Whats New?

March and April

We are leading our Goddess Workshop during March and April and there are currently no planned Circles during this time; however, as the months unfold we will send out details of any circles we plan to host, in a separate email.    We look forward to sharing our Goddess Workshop Journey with you.  

Shamanic Power Retrieval

A Shamanic Power Retrieval is a healing technique used for reclaiming your lost personal power. We have all experienced the loss of our personal power at some point in our lives. Through a Shamanic Power Retrieval, the idea is to retrieve your lost power and return it to you.  Fionn is currently facilitating Power Retrievals remotely as distance sessions.  More details here.

Card Readings

Fionn offers intuitive Tarot and Oracle Card Readings delivered straight to your inbox so you can read them again when you need to.  Prior to consulting the cards to answer any questions you have, I go on a short Shamanic Journey to gain insight into your question and then I connect into the cards for more intuitive guidance.  More details here.

Tarot Card of the Month

The Sun – Prisma Vision Deck
The perfect card for March. It may not always feel like it, but the sun always returns. This card invites you to allow the warmth of the sun to embrace you. If you are finding that these times are still dark for you let the sun creep into those dark cracks and just warm you up a little. Remember if you are enjoying the sun share it with others that may struggle to find it.

May your troubles be less and your blessings be more, and nothing but happiness come through your door.

Blessed Be

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March on.

Do not tarry.

To go forward is to move toward perfection.

March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life's path.

Kahlil Gibran

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