The Importance of Ritual Self Care


We are still living in uncertain times, whilst we prepare for 'freedom' here in the UK with the lifting of restrictions.  The pandemic situation still rages on.

We can easily get sucked into the drama of it all, which was my recent experience… I could sense my stress levels rising and the more that I allowed it to affect me, the more I started to feel scattered, anxious, and distracted.

Too many conflicting opinions and information, is enough to fry the brain and raise the stress levels.

Worrying saps energy and leaves no room for us to do the things we love, and I reminded myself that the only thing I can control… is how I react to things outside of my circle of influence.

So first up, I put the phone down and checked out of socials and the news!  As a society, we are so addicted to our phones, and we often find ourselves wasting precious time scrolling through various social media Apps and feeling triggered by what we see….. ultimately leading to stress. 

Then it was time to make sacred space and reconnect with myself, to get out of my head and back into my heart.  It felt so good to feel grounded and centred again.

As a semblance of normality (whatever that it is) continues to filter in… and with the latest news of a potential for face coverings to become voluntary, it may lead to some of us feeling vulnerable and that the level of safety we have felt wearing them, has been stripped away.

Whatever the different stresses are that arise that for us, it is important that we do things that help us to take care of our mental, physical, and spiritual health.   A daily ritual can help us to stay grounded and connected to ourselves, whilst negotiating the challenging times ahead (or any personal challenges we may face).

A ritual forms part of self-care, which we often overlook when the pressure is on and in Western culture, we are so action orientated, that we tend to think that creating sacred space for ourselves is a waste of time or even selfish.

In order to navigate our normal day to day stresses and the current world drama, we need find some stillness and check in with how we are really feeling.

When we make space to sit in ritual to be fully present with ourselves and to honour ourselves, we become more productive and grounded, allowing us to then lead with the heart.

Integrating a ritual into our schedule on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis gives us the opportunity to focus on ourselves and create space for any inner work we need to do.

Self-care is a loving act and is the practice of consciously doing things that preserve or improve our mental or physical health. 

"A daily ritual is a way of saying I’m voting for myself and I’m taking care of myself"

Mariel Hemingway

Ideas for daily self-care rituals:

A Teatime pause:  put the kettle on, make your favourite cup of tea and enjoy.

Breathe:  Lie on your yoga matt and take a few moments and bring your awareness to your breath as it moves in and out your body

Turn off the computer and go play outside:  Mother nature is the sweetest way to reconnect with yourself and get grounded.

Journalling:  Freewriting your thoughts is a beneficial way to get stuff out of your head and you may even identify possible solutions to anything bothering you.

Meditation:  Focusing on internal stillness and presence can calm your mind and relieve stress

Spend time with animals:  Having a furry friend can help you relax and bring joy to your day.

Decide how you want to feel today.

Self-care encourages us to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves so that we can transmit the good feelings to others.

You cannot give to others what you don't have yourself.

My Favourite daily Self-Care Ritual

I love to get up for an early morning walk before I even consider starting my day.  The hush of the early morning, gives me space to feel a sense of oneness with all and I take this time to reflect on the miracle of life. On my return I put on some incense and maybe some soft music.  I have been recently making a cup of Cacao and spending time with this bitter drink, consciously connecting to her loving presence.  I then take a few minutes to journal my desired intention for the day ahead and anything else I would like to get out of my head and onto paper.  Sometimes I pull an oracle card for guidance and inspiration.

Rituals are ways to celebrate life and infuse our days with meaning.

Take care and do let me know what your favourite self-care ritual practice is?

Leave your comments below.

Wise and Untamed

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March 2021 – Newsletter

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Hello Dear Ones

And just like that, as if by magic, we have entered March and the season of unfurling vibrant life!  

The shift in energy has been palpable and we can breathe a collective sigh of relief as we leave the heaviness of the last couple of months behind us.  

The February Full Moon in Virgo brought some much needed nourishing energy, which helped to clear the fog and shine its lunar light on what we needed to let go of, so we can set a course for forward momentum.  

March is a time for advancement and movement, a time when we look to the future without looking back.  It's an assertive month, with only one objective: explosive expression, there is no stopping the birth of new life from the deepest womb of mother earth.  

By following Mother Earths example, we too can embrace the assertive and lively energy that this month brings and re-ignite our hearts to move forward with our dreams at full throttle.


Fionn sends me a reminder that it is time to put the newsletter together, deep sigh. Where am I going to find time to do this? It is 9 pm and I have just finished work. I change the bed linen – I always sleep better on clean sheets and go for a shower. This last week has been a nightmare between family problems and work, I have just wanted to run away to a sunny beach.

Then while I am in the shower the mind starts working, as it always does. I am reminded of a meditation I like doing with Lakshmi. The last time I did this I asked about lack of time and the answer was clear. There is enough time in the bank, it is what we decide to use it on that is the problem.

So for me, it is easy to make a decision to get up a little earlier, but to spend some time in the morning drinking my coffee and just waking up. I know that some may consider that a waste of time, but I like doing that, it was a conscious decision to do that. What is not conscious is when I pick up my phone and half an hour later I realise that my coffee is done and I have wasted the time looking at the news that annoys me anyway.

On Monday when I worked until 9 it was a decision I made. It is easy for me to decide to spend more time on work, but somehow I can’t do that for the other things that are important for me. Tonight I have something that I need to be online for at work, but the compromise is to spend time on workshop preparation and writing this instead of just working.

My message to you this month is to make decisions about how you spend your time. If that is to work in the evening then that is ok, but also know when to say, actually, I need some space for myself now. And then more important than anything else, accept your decision and be happy with it.



February was a tough month, mentally and emotionally. A lifelong theme was brought fully into my awareness just before the February Full Moon, as recent events played out. When I began to consider my own part to play in this situation, I had a serious AHA moment, old memories flooded in of times, where I have been the ‘happy helper’ (aka too accommodating) forgoing my own needs for sake of others and the resulting negative reactions when I began to unplug them from my energy source.

Whilst I have thought I was being compassionate and understanding, empathetic even, it was very clearly illuminated by the full moon, that I often put the needs of others ahead of my own. Which is one sure-fire way to make one feel drained both emotionally and physically.

Being the happy helper can mean that instead of checking in with ourselves to make sure we have the space to hear someone else’s problems, we accommodate them and let them unload. We also tend to be too understanding and allow people to overstep our personal boundaries, in various ways.

Self-care includes boundaries. And in my case, my inner voice was yelling at me that I needed to create space and re-establish boundaries and to rethink what I perceived to be morally the right thing to do…. during a pandemic; and to make matters even more complicated, there is the added layer of worrying about what others will think.

Being too accommodating is a left-over survival behaviour from childhood, that follows us into adult life. This programming means we are often too helpful, and we instinctively jump into being of service to help people feel at ease, sometimes before we are even asked to. We trick ourselves into thinking we are being nice, but in fact, what we need to recalibrate is our own sense of value and worth.  

The cleansing winds of February and my newly acquired wisdom has left me feeling refreshed and ready to march on with renewed vim and vigour.

This month’s thought to ponder… where are we not harnessing the power of our no and creating healthy boundaries that ensure we come first?


The Owls Witchy Tip

With spring on the way do some physical and spiritual spring cleaning. Clean your sacred space, move it about to release stuck energy and then dress your altar with all things pastel and pretty.

Connect with spring by planting some flower seeds or perhaps something to eat. I have just planted sweet peas (indoors) for planting in the garden later in the year and soon I will plant my first salad leaves. These will be in pots and the cut and grow again variety.  

The Wolfs Wild Tip

Go outside and soak up as much sunlight as you can! This is much needed after the long winter nights and the currently enforced lockdown restrictions.  

Take time to look around you and notice the plants bursting into life. Stop and really take a look at a plant in bud. How amazing are they?  

It’s a time of celebration. Do something fun.

Recommendations of the Month

  • Instagram
  • Books
    • Winter Hours, by Mary Oliver (It's spring, but the book is so beautifully written)
    • The Little Prince, by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (If you need some innocent wisdom in your life.  Supposed to be a children’s book, but one that Belinda rereads all the time)
    • Odin, by Morgan Daimler
    • Goddess Wisdom, by Tanishka

Whats New?

March and April

We are leading our Goddess Workshop during March and April and there are currently no planned Circles during this time; however, as the months unfold we will send out details of any circles we plan to host, in a separate email.    We look forward to sharing our Goddess Workshop Journey with you.  

Shamanic Power Retrieval

A Shamanic Power Retrieval is a healing technique used for reclaiming your lost personal power. We have all experienced the loss of our personal power at some point in our lives. Through a Shamanic Power Retrieval, the idea is to retrieve your lost power and return it to you.  Fionn is currently facilitating Power Retrievals remotely as distance sessions.  More details here.

Card Readings

Fionn offers intuitive Tarot and Oracle Card Readings delivered straight to your inbox so you can read them again when you need to.  Prior to consulting the cards to answer any questions you have, I go on a short Shamanic Journey to gain insight into your question and then I connect into the cards for more intuitive guidance.  More details here.

Tarot Card of the Month

The Sun – Prisma Vision Deck
The perfect card for March. It may not always feel like it, but the sun always returns. This card invites you to allow the warmth of the sun to embrace you. If you are finding that these times are still dark for you let the sun creep into those dark cracks and just warm you up a little. Remember if you are enjoying the sun share it with others that may struggle to find it.

May your troubles be less and your blessings be more, and nothing but happiness come through your door.

Blessed Be


March on.

Do not tarry.

To go forward is to move toward perfection.

March on, and fear not the thorns, or the sharp stones on life's path.

Kahlil Gibran

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